Today I had too much of work.. Actually had got into the slow pace of life so much that all of a sudden so much of work has given me a headache :( ..
Will be going to London to meet my childhood friend maybe tonight, maybe tomorrow morning, haven't decided!!
Perhaps then I will have some pictures to share..
Phew!! I hope something exciting happens over the weekend.. Atleast since my friend sounded really excited, I think I can afford to keep some hope.
He has made some great plans of a Badminton session, then lunch with other friends, chit chatting and some uptown pub hopping .. he was also saying that he would take me to an indian night place.. Lets see.. I will be meeting him after 7 years.. We are friends since class 6th I think.. Hmm... 14 yrs.. Should be fun catching up
Friday, January 25, 2008
Monday, January 21, 2008
Wednesday, January 16, 2008
Saturday, January 12, 2008
Thursday, January 10, 2008
Funny things happen..
I met this really hot guy at the new years party in Leela Kempinsky hotel in Mumbai and since he reminded me of a very close person, i went ahead and told him that after which we danced and talked for quite sometime..
In fact later in the night, or shall I say early morning, he helped me and 2 other friends of mine to look for another friend who got lost in the party because he got so drunk.. Anyway, this guy gave me his number while I was leaving.
Today as usual I was getting bored at office and was browsing thru my phone book when I saw his name and thought of calling him up. And as we conversed, I got to know he is a actor in Marathi films, later we thought of meeting up sometime..
Now the fun part is during my next chit chat session with my marathi colleagues, I happened to ask them if they knew anyone by his name, and I was surprised to see their expressions, all the women were drooling just by the mention of him..
They clearly envied me :) :)
I guess I was free with him because I did not know who he was.
Now when I know, it feels a little funny.
And i think how must have he felt that this one woman walks up to him and says 'Hey you are really hot and you resemble a very special person of my life..' .. Identity crisis was it for him or did he enjoy the namelessness?? I shall ask the next time I speak to him ;)
Wednesday, January 9, 2008
Shortage!
Where are all my blogger buddies?? Why does no one post?? As I said before, I have pelenty of time and everyday I check my fav blogs, but past couple of days my blogger friends seem to have stopped blogging.. This makes me even more bored.. Write guys!! Puhleeezzz...
On second thoughts, am I the only jobless one around??... Give me work!!!
On second thoughts, am I the only jobless one around??... Give me work!!!
Me waiting, and you?
What is everyone else doing?? I am waiting. (For my work permit to arrive so that I can pack up and take a company sponsored vacation to UK).I generally dont hate to wait, but now the wait has been for too long..
Monday, January 7, 2008
The 2 Ajay's I met on 4th
One of my partners in crime - Ajay Prasad
Creator of the Noro's Ark - Ajay Noronha
Wednesday, January 2, 2008
Friday, December 28, 2007
Tea Zee Pea
A couple of days back I watched TZP and I have a few things to say about this film particularly when I am seeing that people at large are loving it.
It has a very sentimental/sad touch thoughout, no doubt about that – I almost cried twice. But if I have to talk about the film as a whole, then I have a few things to say but before that, I would like you to read what Aamir Khan had to say about Sanjay Leela Bhansali’s Black (You can read it here in the article called 'Thanks for the drubbing on my smoking'). To give a one line summary, he said that he was totally against the idea of children being treated harshly. Period.
Before I set out to write what I want to write, I desire to accept a few things:
1) I like Aamir Khan as an artist – I think he has been a part of great films like Lagaan, RDB etc (barring Fanaa as his latest disaster).
2) I don’t particularly like Bhansali’s films because he tries to make everything very out of the world – dream sets, beautiful faces, gaudy clothes, picture perfect locations – all this makes his films gross and vulgar. To reason this out, I would like to talk of Devdas for instance, written by Sarat Chandra Chattopadhyay, it was a story based on the pre independence days – the houses, clothes, the place where Chandramukhi lived etc were not even close to how Bhansali made it look. Another example form the same film is when Devdas hit Paro before her wedding night, Paro’s face bore a scar which run through her face – but no, in the film, Ash of course would not allow herself to have a scar which will make her look any less beautiful :). Now, getting to examples from Black – look at the place where Rani stays, the college she goes to – everything is so picturesque, so beautiful. I think Bhansali sets out with a good script and then messes it up using the Yashraj’s / Karan Johar’s lavishness without understanding its need. However, I would like to point that I did like Black – the story, because I think it was quite real.
Let us now come to the point I want to make.
Aamir Khan shows a dyslexic child who is regular in all other aspects other than his impaired reading abilities – he has shown that the child responds to the environment, most often like it is expected, and based on that, he tries to justify that people should be soft and sensitive towards the differently-abled kids. Which I totally agree should to be the appropriate behavior. But that is not how most mentally challenged kids are (please excuse me for using this term, because I personally feel that they are no less than any of us who proudly call ourselves normal – in fact I think they are far superior to most of us reading this blog – and I say this not out of something I have read or have seen on screen, but out of experience of interacting with them.). Going back to the point, these kids most often come with a physical disability in addition to the mental disability – this makes them not very conventionally pleasing in appearance and conduct. Now with this reality biting, let us go back to this film, and see what Aamir has to offer.
Talking of Black, what Bhansali started out was that there is a girl who does not respond, who is violent, who does not have the ability to speak, or eat or do things the way children of her age do. She is distinctly and unpleasantly different. Her tired and desperate parents have tried hard to educate her by getting her different teachers, but all of them run away because the child is so unmanageable – and then comes this new teacher (played by Amitabh Bacchan) who takes the responsibility of making her confident enough to face the world. And so there are various incidents where we see that people are behaving very harshly with the girl -- which per me may not be the morally correct thing to do, but it is real. In my view, thats where the difference lies – there is something like a appropriate and morally correct behavior and then there is something like natural/reflexive behavior. Now the question is what should be shown in a film?
People who come to watch films try to find respite by seeing that at least somewhere, things are right and fairy tale’ish’. They feel reassured and rejuvenated by believing that there are places where there is goodness all around and people live happily ever after.
A story (I am purposely not using the word Movie) like black is not a fairy tale. It shows an inconvenient truth, and no one likes to witness the reality so much on the face. It makes them uneasy and dissolutions their concept of a happy and fair world making them uncomfortable and unhappy. And so they take moral high grounds and chose to reject the reality.
My idea of a good film is when the director is able to capture what is real rather than trying to show what is correct. Most of us know what is right and wrong. We don’t want to see a rosy rosy picture, and moreover, I think that is no better way of teaching someone the right, other than by showing how dark the wrong appears.
TZP shows us what is right. Apart from that I was also unhappy that he did not dare to work with the more complex cases (the kind of people you think of when you hear the word mentally challenged).
Having watched TZP, one gets the feeling that yeah, that is the way of life – that is how we should behave – but who is there to show us the mirror? Who will show the reflexive behavior that the attitude of people in large have towards the mentally retarded (sorry for this term again, but I am just trying to express the seriousness of the entire issue) – I strongly feel that it is important to show what happens in reality so that people know where they wrong. I think that this is a more effective mode of sending the message across.
To close, I would like to share what Sudhir Mishra wrote in one of his articles “I personally think that most film makers in India are children and most films in India are childrens’ film and rather bad childrens’ films. Their notion of love is that of a fourteen year old. In all popular entertainment the notion of life is going retarded. It’s an illusion which you make people buy into and you get rather hurt when they realize life is not like that. There’s very little difference between selling a fake notion of life and selling a fake product. It’s like advertising. You fall in love and you live happily ever after, is as stupid a notion as you use a fairness cream and you become fair. All are very idiotic notions, sold to the naive and people make a lot of money out of that.”
It has a very sentimental/sad touch thoughout, no doubt about that – I almost cried twice. But if I have to talk about the film as a whole, then I have a few things to say but before that, I would like you to read what Aamir Khan had to say about Sanjay Leela Bhansali’s Black (You can read it here in the article called 'Thanks for the drubbing on my smoking'). To give a one line summary, he said that he was totally against the idea of children being treated harshly. Period.
Before I set out to write what I want to write, I desire to accept a few things:
1) I like Aamir Khan as an artist – I think he has been a part of great films like Lagaan, RDB etc (barring Fanaa as his latest disaster).
2) I don’t particularly like Bhansali’s films because he tries to make everything very out of the world – dream sets, beautiful faces, gaudy clothes, picture perfect locations – all this makes his films gross and vulgar. To reason this out, I would like to talk of Devdas for instance, written by Sarat Chandra Chattopadhyay, it was a story based on the pre independence days – the houses, clothes, the place where Chandramukhi lived etc were not even close to how Bhansali made it look. Another example form the same film is when Devdas hit Paro before her wedding night, Paro’s face bore a scar which run through her face – but no, in the film, Ash of course would not allow herself to have a scar which will make her look any less beautiful :). Now, getting to examples from Black – look at the place where Rani stays, the college she goes to – everything is so picturesque, so beautiful. I think Bhansali sets out with a good script and then messes it up using the Yashraj’s / Karan Johar’s lavishness without understanding its need. However, I would like to point that I did like Black – the story, because I think it was quite real.
Let us now come to the point I want to make.
Aamir Khan shows a dyslexic child who is regular in all other aspects other than his impaired reading abilities – he has shown that the child responds to the environment, most often like it is expected, and based on that, he tries to justify that people should be soft and sensitive towards the differently-abled kids. Which I totally agree should to be the appropriate behavior. But that is not how most mentally challenged kids are (please excuse me for using this term, because I personally feel that they are no less than any of us who proudly call ourselves normal – in fact I think they are far superior to most of us reading this blog – and I say this not out of something I have read or have seen on screen, but out of experience of interacting with them.). Going back to the point, these kids most often come with a physical disability in addition to the mental disability – this makes them not very conventionally pleasing in appearance and conduct. Now with this reality biting, let us go back to this film, and see what Aamir has to offer.
Talking of Black, what Bhansali started out was that there is a girl who does not respond, who is violent, who does not have the ability to speak, or eat or do things the way children of her age do. She is distinctly and unpleasantly different. Her tired and desperate parents have tried hard to educate her by getting her different teachers, but all of them run away because the child is so unmanageable – and then comes this new teacher (played by Amitabh Bacchan) who takes the responsibility of making her confident enough to face the world. And so there are various incidents where we see that people are behaving very harshly with the girl -- which per me may not be the morally correct thing to do, but it is real. In my view, thats where the difference lies – there is something like a appropriate and morally correct behavior and then there is something like natural/reflexive behavior. Now the question is what should be shown in a film?
People who come to watch films try to find respite by seeing that at least somewhere, things are right and fairy tale’ish’. They feel reassured and rejuvenated by believing that there are places where there is goodness all around and people live happily ever after.
A story (I am purposely not using the word Movie) like black is not a fairy tale. It shows an inconvenient truth, and no one likes to witness the reality so much on the face. It makes them uneasy and dissolutions their concept of a happy and fair world making them uncomfortable and unhappy. And so they take moral high grounds and chose to reject the reality.
My idea of a good film is when the director is able to capture what is real rather than trying to show what is correct. Most of us know what is right and wrong. We don’t want to see a rosy rosy picture, and moreover, I think that is no better way of teaching someone the right, other than by showing how dark the wrong appears.
TZP shows us what is right. Apart from that I was also unhappy that he did not dare to work with the more complex cases (the kind of people you think of when you hear the word mentally challenged).
Having watched TZP, one gets the feeling that yeah, that is the way of life – that is how we should behave – but who is there to show us the mirror? Who will show the reflexive behavior that the attitude of people in large have towards the mentally retarded (sorry for this term again, but I am just trying to express the seriousness of the entire issue) – I strongly feel that it is important to show what happens in reality so that people know where they wrong. I think that this is a more effective mode of sending the message across.
To close, I would like to share what Sudhir Mishra wrote in one of his articles “I personally think that most film makers in India are children and most films in India are childrens’ film and rather bad childrens’ films. Their notion of love is that of a fourteen year old. In all popular entertainment the notion of life is going retarded. It’s an illusion which you make people buy into and you get rather hurt when they realize life is not like that. There’s very little difference between selling a fake notion of life and selling a fake product. It’s like advertising. You fall in love and you live happily ever after, is as stupid a notion as you use a fairness cream and you become fair. All are very idiotic notions, sold to the naive and people make a lot of money out of that.”
Wednesday, December 26, 2007
A Saturday well spent..
Me and a couple of friends went to this school where we often visit to spend time with the lovely children there.
So to say they are differntly abled kids but you need to be with them to feel how beautiful each one of them is. For certain they are really special.
This time we had a small christmas party there - games, singing, dancing, eating and loving ..
A few pictures..
Mayank tying a shiny ball on the christmas tree.
Singing christmas carols :)
The youngest princess there :)
Then the antakshari session, trust me they are sooo good at it
We lost and the losing team had to dance
A group picture
B-bye time
So to say they are differntly abled kids but you need to be with them to feel how beautiful each one of them is. For certain they are really special.
This time we had a small christmas party there - games, singing, dancing, eating and loving ..
A few pictures..
Mayank tying a shiny ball on the christmas tree.
Singing christmas carols :)
The youngest princess there :)
Then the antakshari session, trust me they are sooo good at it
We lost and the losing team had to dance
A group picture
B-bye time
Monday, December 24, 2007
Saviour Bug!
Yahoo messenger has a bug (I think it is!), you can add yourself as a friend in your friend list and then chat with none other than yourself..
It is a good time pass.. Just imagine, if you could get someone who looks, feels and perceives things exactly the way you do.. I wish I could give flesh and blood to it..
Thats it!
When do you really feel that it is enough? What happens - the desire ends or you just get tired?
Thursday, December 20, 2007
Monday, December 17, 2007
Free will?
Was reading up a few things on freedom and then I wondered how free we really are? Come to think of it, we can’t choose to be foolish, we can’t choose our sexual preferences, we cant choose a profession of our choice are a few amongst the many other 'we cant's'.
How can the state tell an individual to change his/her profession because it is not dignified enough? Like in Mumbai Dance bars were made to shut down, because the state supposedly wanted to protect the dignity of women, but then what about the women who were in it because that was there source of income, their job and they did that out of will.
Why penalize someone for not wearing a seat belt or helmet? I don't advocate the vice but then a person does have the right to be stupid when the consequences are nothing more than self inflicting.
It makes sense to have laws to ensure that there is peace and order in a free society -- but these must essentially be restrained to victim oriented behavior, like murder or rape for instance. But not on things like homosexuality, or suicides or prostitution.
Free will just remains another word in the dictionary.
How can the state tell an individual to change his/her profession because it is not dignified enough? Like in Mumbai Dance bars were made to shut down, because the state supposedly wanted to protect the dignity of women, but then what about the women who were in it because that was there source of income, their job and they did that out of will.
Why penalize someone for not wearing a seat belt or helmet? I don't advocate the vice but then a person does have the right to be stupid when the consequences are nothing more than self inflicting.
It makes sense to have laws to ensure that there is peace and order in a free society -- but these must essentially be restrained to victim oriented behavior, like murder or rape for instance. But not on things like homosexuality, or suicides or prostitution.
Free will just remains another word in the dictionary.
Wednesday, December 12, 2007
Phew!!
Often I wonder if automation is a boon or a bane. Is it more tension than convenience?
For instance, the credit card – it is a good enough tool to lead you to a fatal debt loop.
It is so difficult to control your spending habits if you get used to the credit card concept, like I am.
Not just the way you spend, but it also becomes a huge task to manage the bills, verify them – check for service charge, late payment fee etc etc, keep track of the last date of payment et all.
And unluckily, if you do have a discrepancy, then the nerve raking pain to go thru the viciousness of the call centre world!
Today, I was making an airline booking for Delhi thru this website called ezeego1.co.in, after the payment was thru I awaited the ticket to be displayed on the screen but all that I get is a blank page with nothing on it except a message reading ‘Your payment is successful!!” – Then began the ordeal of calling up customer support – and hours of waiting – finally they say that due to technical failures, the tickets have not been booked, but the credit card has been charged. Now they will arrange to revert the charges – and no it won’t happen immediately, it will take a couple of days and I need to check back after 3 working days – remember the vicious circle!! And I always wonder why servers’ crash and technical failures happen just after the money has been charged! I think I will never get an answer to this.
Sadly today I also had a long haggling session with the customer care of ABN AMRO Credit card people for some over limit charge they levied on my credit card (I was 100 Rs over limit and they charged me 500Rs more for that!!) – and only when I threatened to surrender my credit card did they agree to reverse the charges!! See, no one wants you to spend less – what a trap this is.
I remember long time back I was using my ATM card to withdraw money and after the transaction, the money did not dispense from the wending machine plus it gobbled my card and to add to the fun, it threw out a slip which said ‘TRANSACTION SUCCESSFULL’!!!
Sometimes I feel like giving up all the plastic cards I have and return to the good old paper money – but it is so difficult to break free from this habit which sometimes does make life easier.
PS. I got a funny gift today, my office reception lady called me to collect a parcel that had come thru courier post, and guess what it was, a pair of pink socks and silver colored chappals!! :)
Whacky day!!
For instance, the credit card – it is a good enough tool to lead you to a fatal debt loop.
It is so difficult to control your spending habits if you get used to the credit card concept, like I am.
Not just the way you spend, but it also becomes a huge task to manage the bills, verify them – check for service charge, late payment fee etc etc, keep track of the last date of payment et all.
And unluckily, if you do have a discrepancy, then the nerve raking pain to go thru the viciousness of the call centre world!
Today, I was making an airline booking for Delhi thru this website called ezeego1.co.in, after the payment was thru I awaited the ticket to be displayed on the screen but all that I get is a blank page with nothing on it except a message reading ‘Your payment is successful!!” – Then began the ordeal of calling up customer support – and hours of waiting – finally they say that due to technical failures, the tickets have not been booked, but the credit card has been charged. Now they will arrange to revert the charges – and no it won’t happen immediately, it will take a couple of days and I need to check back after 3 working days – remember the vicious circle!! And I always wonder why servers’ crash and technical failures happen just after the money has been charged! I think I will never get an answer to this.
Sadly today I also had a long haggling session with the customer care of ABN AMRO Credit card people for some over limit charge they levied on my credit card (I was 100 Rs over limit and they charged me 500Rs more for that!!) – and only when I threatened to surrender my credit card did they agree to reverse the charges!! See, no one wants you to spend less – what a trap this is.
I remember long time back I was using my ATM card to withdraw money and after the transaction, the money did not dispense from the wending machine plus it gobbled my card and to add to the fun, it threw out a slip which said ‘TRANSACTION SUCCESSFULL’!!!
Sometimes I feel like giving up all the plastic cards I have and return to the good old paper money – but it is so difficult to break free from this habit which sometimes does make life easier.
PS. I got a funny gift today, my office reception lady called me to collect a parcel that had come thru courier post, and guess what it was, a pair of pink socks and silver colored chappals!! :)
Whacky day!!
Tuesday, December 11, 2007
Monday, December 10, 2007
Tuesday, December 4, 2007
Holy Cows make the best Ham burgers - Mark Twain
Came across this article written by Annie Zaidi about growing up as an Indian Muslim.
No! I will not put a title!
Running a bad mood and the only thing that cheered me up was a share-my-lunch invite from a buddy -- menu -- chole and rotis -- yummmmm..
Thinking of going for the karaoke night today at Aura -- Ahh.. I feel better ;)
Thinking of going for the karaoke night today at Aura -- Ahh.. I feel better ;)
Thursday, November 29, 2007
Alot happened in Rajdhani
Went home to attend a friends wedding AND to be there with my little bro on his birthday AND to meet my family, cant really say which was the greater reason.
Must admit that the stay was quite eventful –
Friday: The very first day I slashed my thumb badly with a knife and then went ahead with attending a big fat punju sagan (a pre wedding function) – although the reporting time on the card was 7.30 pm, but no cookies for guessing that even when we arrived at 8.30 pm, there was no one – not even the caterers :).
Saturday: Started my day with a visit to Max hospital in Noida to dress my injured blue thumb, met a friend for lunch and then took him to Max hospital Saket to mend his bleeding chin – yes the same brand of hospital twice!! Then met up with another friend and spend some good time.
Sunday: Attended the REALLY BIG FAT punju wedding and was ehm ehm bored :( shhhhhhhh… (my friend will kill me for saying this). Slept in the car on my way back home.
Monday: My brothers birthday – Got up really late – he had already left for school!! And I thought I came with an intension of making it a little special for him Huh.. – I could not even wake up on time! During the day I helped my mum fry pooris for the feast my parents arrange for the less fortunate children at least once a year (this year, it happened to be on my brothers birthday), and then just before my bro was supposed to get back from school, i dozed off. Slept all thru the day till it was late evening and my mom woke me up to cut the little cake my dad got for my bro (yes, my Dad got a cake -- i was surprised since it was very unlike of him. When we were young he used to never do all that, in fact I could not imagine him saying anything more than a little happy birthday.. Looks like he has changed a little).
Tuesday: Bad Bad day – full tension - mat hi batau to accha hai.
Wednesday: Damage repair day – success rate was fair.
Thursday: Took an early, really early morning flight back to Mumbai. (No, I did not do that to report to work on time, but because that was the only cheap flight available - well i should say relatively cheap -- the wedding season has peaked the ticket prices so much that I felt that I am buying a ticket for a trip to the moon!!)
Now - the icing to the cake - just after I got back to Mumbai, I was told that the my dad's laptop crashed today (and I was the last one to use it – that too last night!!). What more?? He had gigs and gigs of important data in it, AND my dad is 62 yrs old AND he is a professor, AND I was the last person to use the machine– I hope you can imagine what is happening.
Murphy’s Law: People never take back up of important data. And the data which is useless is never damaged or lost!!
The last resort to save my ass: I have suggested my dad to send the laptop to a recovery agent -- have kept my fingers crossed till I hear from him :(
Okay, now to end this post on a happy note let me tell you about the good stuff that happened in Delhi-
I met and spent some good time with 4 of my very close friends.
I attended the wedding -- this saves me from being subjected to a life long complain of not attending the wedding :)
Was with my bro after a long time on his birthday (although I did not really do anything major -- I slept all day instead .. bad sister :()
Spent a little time with mom, and even lesser time with dad -- but it was good -- we did not have any argument ;)
A few pictures:
Must admit that the stay was quite eventful –
Friday: The very first day I slashed my thumb badly with a knife and then went ahead with attending a big fat punju sagan (a pre wedding function) – although the reporting time on the card was 7.30 pm, but no cookies for guessing that even when we arrived at 8.30 pm, there was no one – not even the caterers :).
Saturday: Started my day with a visit to Max hospital in Noida to dress my injured blue thumb, met a friend for lunch and then took him to Max hospital Saket to mend his bleeding chin – yes the same brand of hospital twice!! Then met up with another friend and spend some good time.
Sunday: Attended the REALLY BIG FAT punju wedding and was ehm ehm bored :( shhhhhhhh… (my friend will kill me for saying this). Slept in the car on my way back home.
Monday: My brothers birthday – Got up really late – he had already left for school!! And I thought I came with an intension of making it a little special for him Huh.. – I could not even wake up on time! During the day I helped my mum fry pooris for the feast my parents arrange for the less fortunate children at least once a year (this year, it happened to be on my brothers birthday), and then just before my bro was supposed to get back from school, i dozed off. Slept all thru the day till it was late evening and my mom woke me up to cut the little cake my dad got for my bro (yes, my Dad got a cake -- i was surprised since it was very unlike of him. When we were young he used to never do all that, in fact I could not imagine him saying anything more than a little happy birthday.. Looks like he has changed a little).
Tuesday: Bad Bad day – full tension - mat hi batau to accha hai.
Wednesday: Damage repair day – success rate was fair.
Thursday: Took an early, really early morning flight back to Mumbai. (No, I did not do that to report to work on time, but because that was the only cheap flight available - well i should say relatively cheap -- the wedding season has peaked the ticket prices so much that I felt that I am buying a ticket for a trip to the moon!!)
Now - the icing to the cake - just after I got back to Mumbai, I was told that the my dad's laptop crashed today (and I was the last one to use it – that too last night!!). What more?? He had gigs and gigs of important data in it, AND my dad is 62 yrs old AND he is a professor, AND I was the last person to use the machine– I hope you can imagine what is happening.
Murphy’s Law: People never take back up of important data. And the data which is useless is never damaged or lost!!
The last resort to save my ass: I have suggested my dad to send the laptop to a recovery agent -- have kept my fingers crossed till I hear from him :(
Okay, now to end this post on a happy note let me tell you about the good stuff that happened in Delhi-
I met and spent some good time with 4 of my very close friends.
I attended the wedding -- this saves me from being subjected to a life long complain of not attending the wedding :)
Was with my bro after a long time on his birthday (although I did not really do anything major -- I slept all day instead .. bad sister :()
Spent a little time with mom, and even lesser time with dad -- but it was good -- we did not have any argument ;)
A few pictures:
Tuesday, November 13, 2007
Bitch! Uh!! Thanks!
A couple of days back, I was reading something about slangs and why most often they outrage the modesty of women. But that is not what I want to talk about here. I read a very interesting take on the word ‘Bitch’ about which I would want to write.
When does a man call a women Bitch? It is when a woman refuses to be treated like a doormat and does not settle for anything less than the privileges offered to men. So when ‘Bitch’ is used as an insult to a woman, you could assume that she is a woman who has opinions and does not shy away from talking about them, she is the type who believes in the concept of ‘a tooth for a tooth, an eye for an eye’ – who refuses to sit back, get embarrassed and smile uneasily when being offended or bothered.
So, it basically boils down to the fact that being bold, outspoken and sensibly extrovert is being a bitch.
And if someone calls you one, then you could just take that as a compliment and say Thanks!
When does a man call a women Bitch? It is when a woman refuses to be treated like a doormat and does not settle for anything less than the privileges offered to men. So when ‘Bitch’ is used as an insult to a woman, you could assume that she is a woman who has opinions and does not shy away from talking about them, she is the type who believes in the concept of ‘a tooth for a tooth, an eye for an eye’ – who refuses to sit back, get embarrassed and smile uneasily when being offended or bothered.
So, it basically boils down to the fact that being bold, outspoken and sensibly extrovert is being a bitch.
And if someone calls you one, then you could just take that as a compliment and say Thanks!
Monday, November 12, 2007
Thursday, November 1, 2007
..Without
I was thinking why people get restless? Maybe it is because they have a desire which is unfulfilled or incomplete.
Then i came to think of the very clichéd question of what is it that I cant live without. And knocking off illegal answers like Books/Music/Food/Water/Air/Sleep and the likes.. I roughly figured out that it is 'Touch' that I can not do without.
By touch I mean that the virtual feeling of being loved or loving is not enough - I need presence just as much. I need to feel love and affection under my fingertips.
I don’t know if I am being juvenile in saying this. I am totally aware of truths like - "The one who looks outside dreams, and the one who looks inside awakens", but till the time I dont reach to a level where I can honestly say that I need nothing, not even myself, I would want to believe that it is Touch for me.
Then i came to think of the very clichéd question of what is it that I cant live without. And knocking off illegal answers like Books/Music/Food/Water/Air/Sleep and the likes.. I roughly figured out that it is 'Touch' that I can not do without.
By touch I mean that the virtual feeling of being loved or loving is not enough - I need presence just as much. I need to feel love and affection under my fingertips.
I don’t know if I am being juvenile in saying this. I am totally aware of truths like - "The one who looks outside dreams, and the one who looks inside awakens", but till the time I dont reach to a level where I can honestly say that I need nothing, not even myself, I would want to believe that it is Touch for me.
Tuesday, October 23, 2007
Chichi
It is difficult to take pictures of animals because they invariably move exactly when you hit the shutter. But at the same time, it is very rare to land up with a displeasing image. This one is Archie. A handsome 3 and a half year old golden lab.
Monday, October 22, 2007
Outlook and Deb -- A subtle relation
Was reading an article in the recent copy of Outlook about 12 reasons for India to feel happy about – trust me it is a must read – a good booster shot after the virtually perennial lowly feeling arising out of the atrocities that we see everyday (I will try to get the link for the article). Outlook has off late become one of my regulars (maybe because I subscribed to the lucrative promotional corporate offer they were providing a couple of months back - but whatever may be the reason, I am happy about it) – there is a certain sense of honestly and simplicity in it. I was pleasantly surprised to know that the editor of the magazine, Vinod Mehta was also at one time the editor of Debonair. :)
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