Thursday, March 22, 2007

And we talk of Discrimi-n.a.t.i.o.n



So we awe and make a hue and cry about a fellow Indian being ill-treated and belittled in the country of the whites, are we forgetting something that we practice ourselves in our very own lives. It’s like talking of cleaning the streets when your own house is filthy.

Ok, wondering what I am talking of?? I can be more than sure that almost every Indian has a little something for a fair skin. Come on now; don’t nod your head laterally. If you have not done it yourself, you must either be on the side where there is shade or you may be the kind of person who has the right to flex your neck muscle just till you read the next few lines. Ok, so u don’t lust at the fairer skin and you don’t take a second glance at the lighter tone – lemme believe you. But now think a little more and tell me if anyone from your close circle of friends mocked someone for the way god made him/her, or your mum thought a prospect alliance was not suitable enough for you because she was not light enough for you. And when that happened, what did you do? Did you whack your friend or did you take the pain to correct your mum? I think, NO. So, now can I see those oscillating heads slow down? And if you are still nodding your head left and right, then its nice to have you in this planet, for people like you make this world a better place to live in.

Discrimination is there everywhere. Discrimination is to an extent necessary – but then again it depends what you are discriminating against. Intelligent discrimination is about choosing the company you would like to keep on the basis of mental frequency, intellectual compatibility and definitely not based on skin tone, appearance, wealth, profession and definitely not because of nationality.

All of us learn – I cant say that I never discriminated ever since I was born – ofcourse I did. May be I still do at some places, but what I am learning is that baseless, unnecessary, absurd and cheap. It’s a disgrace to your own intellect and humanism. A man is known by the company he keeps. And if the company is colorful, it yells back aloud.

19 comments:

Divya said...

Taking the example of marriage...
Earlier I also used to think on similar lines like how can fairness be the criterion of rejection for a female...
but actually these are just the attributes u are affected by....dont u think this criterion of rejection should be allowed if this is the criterion of selection ??
the female is equally participant as would she be okay with her broken marriage because of a skin allergy !!

u wrote something bout intelligent discrimination....mental frequency etc...this is wat u give importance to..
sad to accept but there are ppl who get married to bring a show piece for their living rooms....
I dont know wud it be right to question others choice. Not sayin at all that those ppl are right or they should be doing so but i am still in a delimma that are we right to give our opinions on someones personal choices without being asked to do so...

Anonymous said...

You said Divya that fairness and all are just the attributes you are affected by. But doesnt it say something about us? What affects us is an expression of how compassionate we are. Its not the case of allowing or disallowing this "criteria" for selection or rejection. It is about the fact that we sometimes reduce people (most often women) to a piece of meat. Broken marriage because of skin allergy is a bad example. A marriage will break because of skin allergy only if the marriage happenned because of healthy skin in the first place and there is no love,respect,need,desire and warmth to keep it intact. There is to human relationships than healthy and fair skin.

Anonymous said...

* There is more to human relationships than fair and helthy skin. *** I missed the word more in the last commant...apologies***

Deepshikha said...

Hi Anonymous .. I am kind of inquisitive to know who you are.. Good writing !!

Deepshikha said...

Replying to what Divya had commented and adding onto what Mr/Ms Anonymous had to say:: We dont have the right to make illogical judgements, but i think we do have the right to voice opinions even when we are not asked to do so. Its a passe to think that we should not speak when we are not asked or expected to speak -- I say that if we dont say what we think, we will never be able to make a difference. I would like to question that if you are witnessing an unfair act, would you just pretend as if y ou never saw it, or would you try to help and make a difference? I guess you would choose the latter. And any responsible and intelligent person would do so.
So in short, i think if one has a logic and an appropriate and harmless reason, one should speak. Point to be noted here is that it should be logical and harmless.

Anonymous said...

I think I should stay anonymous. So many spelling mistakes in just three lines..healthy is helthy, comment is commant.

Deepshikha said...

Hi Anonymous.. So you want to stay nameless.. Hmm.. Its ok if you insist. But do keep writing. I love to read your thoughts.

Divya said...

@deephshikha: u r right, we must talk about things. At least ppl who r open to thoughts have a medium of improvization...
I was expecting something more on what i wrote ??

@anonymous: No doubt, attributes which affect us totally reflect our personalities.And all this comes up from the environment, histories etc...
Being compassionate is not important for everybody, u r generalizing things...next step might be u come up with how good/nice we are relating to the same thing ...that is what i m trying to say....definations might differ.
As far as reducing people is considered, I hope for a world where males suffer rejection from all the females if the criterion of marriage is fairness...to hell with them, who cares for them...at least I dont.
Skin allergy :: that is what I wrote earlier??'dont u think this criterion of rejection should be allowed if this is the criterion of selection ??'
Marriage :: Good u think this way !!

I guess u r a male..right or wrong?...hehehe

Deepshikha said...

Divya:: I think Anonymous should answer your comment this time. :)
P.S. Its surprising that you have shown an interest of knowing a little about who the anonymous vistor was.. reminds me of something you said ;)
Anonymous:: Please tell us about yourself :)

Divya said...

One more thing...as u use compassionate, this itself shows u haven't grown over this and consider it as some suffering. Like this we have two options: either u don't consider it as an important attribute (like i wrote earlier) or u consider it and then overlook it...what u r doing is in a way giving importance to something which is not worth (u already said that there is much more in a human relationship)and then being sympathetic about it...

Anonymous said...

I suspect, Divya you are a teenager struggling to be iconoclastic and thereby questioning everything; If that's the case, you are doing great and I am sure with time your arguments will mature. Contarary to what you think, I am woman.

Anonymous said...

Sorry 4 breaking th chain of a heated argument(intellectual Discussion)!!!

Somehow I had to read the blog again after going thru th Comments.. believe th topic itself changed during th course of identifying th Anonymous.. :P

First > th topic is abt DISCRIMInation.. how we are against the discrimination shown towards people of one nation by another(say Indians in US, which is illogical, n is mostly based on Skin Color).. And our dis-regard towards this process is Questioned by asking us > DON'T U URSELF DISCRIMINATE SO MANY THINGS WITHOUT LOGIC!!!

I would avoid talking abt Marriage/Love/Liking due to skin color or allergy here coz th topic is more imp...

I agree with th writer n would say > Discrimination should be there but have a logical base.. Illogical discrimination(e.g. skin color, religion, power, beliefs) would lead to nowhere as with these kinda things you can be at the receiving end anyday..

now lets talk abt other stuff (related intellect!!!) >
@divya > God knows wt will happen to u th day u see th first wrinkle on ur face.. u wont b a bit less intelligent, u wont stop feeling for smone u liked, u wont start hating urself, u wont start associating urself with ur daily activities.. then how can u say these things (which come under Illogical discrimination) be a criteria of selection or rejection.. Dear if u r thoughtful enuf abt life n u like smone due to sm logical things like frequency matching etc. u wont face these situations... n if th first thing u see in others is how they appear, wt religion/beliefs they have, then u r waiting for trouble... SO Kindly DISCRIMINATE Logically!!!

n again b4 leaving, Sorry for th interruption.. n m Anonymous no. 2 who is a male, who likes wheatish skin tone :P bt much more than that look forward to good company n good moments...(logical moments.. naa!!!)

Divya said...

First things first, I am not a teenager.... how much do u think age matters anyways
I am not interested in labels... but yes i m struggling.
my thoughts wont mature by time (I cant leave it on time....) but by getting answers. U can add a lot to that...

Sanjay Rajoura said...
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Sanjay Rajoura said...

I have visited this blog after a long time..looking at the comments, I cannot figure out what is going on.Whatever happened to articulation, and could someone please explain me what does the symbol ">" stand for?

Sanjay Rajoura said...

Divya...how is the struggle going?

Divya said...

U need not worry about me....I never said anywhere I m interested in physical beauty but these are the things to be thought by the ppl who give importance to all this...
Ppl who love money shud worry about the time they dont have any...
Ppl who love beauty shud worry about the time they dont have any...
Ppl who love logical brain shud worry about the time they dont have any,u might loose it someday...
r u telling me to love intelligently/logically because it is more secure and the probability of loosing it is less?
u r setting logics to love somebody, not fair....

The thing i was saying is the restriction of choice...
I am not taking any sides(that is not important) but just exploring this intelligent way of restricting somebody....

Divya said...

Sanjay, i never knew u write...but there r no posts ??
The struggle will/should never end....I am enjoying it totally

Anonymous said...

well we can talk about love/marriage as the areas where we see discrimination. But why the hell leave other areas out. Hey dips, may be you can write a separate blog on - Love/Marriage etc.
Secondly, I am very much interested in reading that 'deleted comment'. Hey author, why did you deleted that comment. Makes me inquisitive :).