Thursday, December 21, 2006

Resist Life?

There are innumerable types of people in this world, some are laid back and some are go getters, some work just as much as required while some are workaholics, some people are happy with what they have and some never stop craving for more…. But the saddest part of anyone’s life would be when he/she realizes that they have spent all their life just waiting for life to begin.

What is an ideal life? Well, who knows the right answer to this? It’s as easy or shall I say, as confusing as saying, what isn’t, is ; and what is, isn’t. Idealism is relative, as far as I understand it. Trying to know beyond what is possible is as harmful and vain as trying to work without breaks. It makes individuals less productive, frustrated, fatigued and they start falling into the category of people I talk about before – the kind who keep waiting for the right time for life to start. One really need to think if he wants to get into the mad rush and race for the unknown.

Remorse, death, loss, desperation, hopelessness are all eerie feelings. One should keep away from them. What is important in a relation - the love, the trust, the understanding, the knowledge of each others importance – I guess all of them and almost in that order; or is it about the visible chemistry of complimentary aspects like wealth, status, education, appearance, carrier and a promise of the future – something no one has seen, something one can only wish for and work towards? What constitutes to the goodness of a person, the genuineness, the honesty, the compassion, the attitude towards people less fortunate than oneself, the intelligence, the sense of treating the people who love him, flexibility for happier existence of oneself and for the people associated with him – all this, or is it all about tangible components like wealth, comfort, passion for perfection, lust, casualness, insensitivity, selfishness or ignorance. Why is it that people refuse to accept that time is running out, every minute they live in ignorance, they are losing 60 seconds of life. Time and tide waits for no man, this saying is true and every other person dead or alive knows about it, then why still ignore this? There is most often nothing like a right time, now is the time because you don’t know what the future will be like. The tragedy again, I repeat is that each one of us look at the apparently happier people and think that when I will have all that he has now, I shall be happy. This again is an act of darkness. And for people who say that they can live alone, that they don’t need people around them – they are people who are egoists and unconsciously cause as much harm to themselves as they do to the people who love them. This is an era of rush, everything is disposable, reusable, sellable and available at the throw of wealth, but who has been able to purchase the love of a person, the care of a parent, the smile of a baby, the breath of freedom, the selfless hug that is just is little tighter, the sweetest kiss that’s just lasts just a little longer, a specially cooked dinner, a blanket tuck when u r deep in sleep, the affection you get when u have no fancy things that you now proudly possess. What is it that people want? What is it that you want? The act of resisting life may prove that one is strong, but ask the deepest part of you, don’t you have any desires?

4 comments:

Anupam said...

I am fortunately the first one to comment on your blog.
Frankly speaking, the literary beauty trasformed me to a diffrent world.It has really opened up the other side of you...
Looking forward to see more of this.

Divya said...

Remorse, death, loss, desperation, hopelessness....all are an important part of life, If you donno loss how will you know what love is. You can never escape them. How long can we continue lookin at the positive side of life, these are just excuses and ignorance towards our understanding of existence.
Most of the things (dont want to write everything..something stops me...)in this world is sellable and this includes love, care; its just the mode differs and we cant measure everything in terms of wealth.
I dont know y the world is against egoists, everything we do, we do for ourself even helping others,being nice etc.A daughter helping her mother in house is just her expression to prove how well she fits into the word 'daughter'... It is one of the hardest things to accept in ones life.

Deepshikha said...

Its nice to read your thoughts Divya, but there are portions in your note with which i disagree slightly. First being there is a differnence in being an egoist and being selfish. When you say that we all do everything because of our own self and will, its true, but that is selfishness and not egoism. And hence I disagree when you say that being egoists about wrong things is good. The next instance where i disagree is when you reduce a parent-child relationship to something very flacid. If you would have said this about something else, maybe teacher-student or, employee-employer, i would have understood. We want to be selfish all the time, and i completely agree with it, after all who wants pains for oneself, but if your being in pain could mean happiness for someone you love, would you not give in?? You may again want to say, that even thats being selfish - because at the end of it we are bearing pain for someone else because we want to be the perfect one in the relationship. But then again, things are not always Black and White , they are generally Grey. Anyway, its nice that we are talking :).. Keep blogging ..

Divya said...

I hardly see any difference between a parent-child relation and a teacher-student relation, all depends on the value we give to a relation. How does blood relations bound you to love more or less....

Egoism --The ethical doctrine that morality has its foundations in self-interest.
Its all about self interest.
By looking at the grey shades, again we are ignoring the truth and being satisfied till the point we want to look and not further

I think i am sounding too dark...hmm just a phase of life !!
We will talk about this sometime as otherwise this will go on long in your blog....